New Horizons Divorce Coaching

~Don't just GO through it, GROW through it

Post Divorce Coaching

The New Horizons motto is ‘Don’t just GO through it, GROW through it’.  Working with a Divorce Coach will give you the tools you need to grow stronger and create a new life after divorce.

Confidence and Self-Esteem.

Confidence and Self-Esteem are the key to redesigning your life. Have you ever noticed how confident people attract attention? They seem to draw people to them even when they are not necessarily the most (conventionally) attractive person in the room. One of the things that is attractive about them is that they are comfortable with themselves. A Coach will help you to increase your confidence and self-esteem.

Positive thinking. 

A positive mental attitude is extremely important when recovering from a divorce. 

We have thousands of thoughts every day, most of them are negative – learn to be aware of your thoughts and ‘pull yourself up’ when you catch yourself thinking negatively. Keep challenging your ‘inner critic’.

Check your feelings regularly and banish negative thoughts. Where focus goes, energy flows. Focus on what you do want, not what you don’t want.

Count your blessings - be grateful for what you have. List at least 6 positive things that have happened during the day before you go to sleep at night (a piece of work well done, a beautiful flower, a bird singing, a lovely sunset, something someone said, a new piece of knowledge, a delicious meal).

Negative Emotions & Limiting Beliefs

I will help you to identify beliefs that could be holding you back by noticing the language patterns you use.  Once they have been identified we can work together to change them. 

Work through your negative emotions – it is natural to be angry at first.   It is almost a grieving process, although your partner might not be dead he/she has gone and it will take time to adjust.  However, don’t hang on to those feelings of anger and bitterness – let them go. Keeping a journal can be a good way of releasing your anger.

Clarify your Goals

Everyone should have goals in life - without goals we have no direction. I will help you to define and achieve your goals. I will also help you to realise your full potential and to look at problems from a different perspective by asking challenging questions.

Focus

Once you have Goals you can focus on how to get what you want.  It is amazing what you can achieve when you are focussed and your Divorce Coach will be there supporting, challenging and encouraging you.

Create a new life after divorce.

"Don't just GO through it, GROW through it"

"You should never regret what you've done, only what you haven't done"

Quentin Crisp

"Shoot for the moon.  Even if you miss you’ll land among the stars”

Anon

"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent"

Eleanor Roosevelt

"If you can dream it, you can do it"

Walt Disney

"It is not in the stars to hold our destiny but in ourselves"

Shakespeare

“A Coaching relationship is like no other, simply because of its combination of objective detachment and commitment to the goals of the individual.”

Julie Starr

Coaching Through your Divorce

Divorce Coaching is about developing people to achieve their full potential and empowering them to turn a dream into reality.

Your Divorce Coach will give you the time and space to really explore your feelings.  The main skills of a good Coach are the ability to really listen without interrupting or interpreting what is said, feeding back what they are hearing, being non-directive and non-judgemental.  I will not interrupt you, judge you or tell you what you should do.

A Coach will encourage you to explore new avenues, stretch your comfort zones, look at all the options and find your own solutions.  Being coached is an empowering and rewarding experience.

Testimonial

"Working with Annie has helped me to focus on the elements of my life I could change and control, leading to a feeling of empowerment. In just a few sessions Annie has helped me to change things I never thought possible.
I am amazed at how positive I now feel about all areas of my life, all due to the motivation and encouragement given by working with Annie. I can't recommend life coaching and Annie enough to anyone looking to move forward in their life"

Elaine, Brighton

What are the benefits of Divorce Coaching?

Divorce Coaching can result in:

• Improved Confidence & Self-Esteem
• Reduced stress levels
• Better clarity and focus
• The ability to set and achieve goals
• Faster decision making

Better communication skills

By working with a Divorce Coach you will feel supported in setting and achieving your goals.

Why can’t I just talk to my friends?

Friends tend to advise you – a Divorce Coach will listen and ask you questions designed to help you find the answers within yourself.  A Divorce Coach is an unbiased, non-judgemental listener.  A coaching session is completely confidential – nothing you say will be repeated to anyone. 

What you can expect from your Divorce Coach

I will provide you with the kind of attention that you will rarely experience elsewhere.  I will challenge you, support you and help you to focus on what you really want to achieve.

I will give you my undivided attention during our sessions and reflect back to you objectively, helping you to clarify your goals.  I will encourage you to rise to challenges, overcome obstacles and get into action.

I will support you to look at all the available options and to find your own solutions. Your goals and the actions to achieve them will be designed by you, making them all the more powerful.

What your Divorce Coach expects from you

I will expect your full commitment to the coaching process.  This will mean starting the session on time, taking your own notes where appropriate and keeping to the agreements you make. It is important that you are completely open and honest with me and to the potential of Coaching.  It is essential that you are willing to take action to achieve your Goals.

What is the difference between Coaching and Counselling?

Many of the skills of coaching are comparable to those used within the field of counselling.  However, there are fundamental differences between them.

How many sessions will I need

Although a one off session can help to clarify your issues, most people find that they need at least 6 sessions to achieve an effective and lasting result.
The first session usually lasts for 1 ½ hours and subsequent sessions usually take around 45 minutes and are spaced at least a week apart.  This gives the client time to complete the actions they have agreed with the Coach.  

How much does it cost?

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The GROW model is a popular tool used in coaching:

The Coach will then support you to review the REALITY of your current situation.

Together you will then consider all the OPTIONS you could take to achieve the goal.

The Coach might ask you some challenging questions and will help to keep you on track and focussed towards the session goal, ‘parking’ other ideas that occur for another session.

Divorce Coaching is about developing people and empowering them to turn a dream into reality.

~Don't just GO through it, GROW through it